Sickening CCTV footage shows how Thomas Ryan, 53, was punched, kicked and stamped on repeatedly after being knocked to the floor of Bar H2O in Gloucester.
Three men carried out the retaliatory attack after Ryan had rushed into the bar with a broken beer bottle in his hand and tried to slash one of them with it.
Though most people won’t wait two years into sobriety to start dating, keep in mind that the smell of alcohol, the taste of a kiss [with someone who’s been drinking], the clinking of ice in the glass, as well as the bar and the bar scene could be triggers.”Irene Carroll, a North Carolina–based addiction therapist, says, “Dating is just so risky for people in early in recovery, especially so if you’re considering going out with someone who isn’t sober. ” Naturally, when going out with someone who drinks, sober people often wonder when and how to reveal the fact that they don’t drink.
Carroll offers, “Most alcoholics know places that don’t serve liquor—coffeehouses, museums.
“If you’re talking about someone with good sobriety dating someone who is a casual or responsible drinker, there isn’t necessarily a problem,” she says.
“If the sober person is in early recovery or if the drinker is a problem drinker, the chances for a good dating experience are dim.
So, at the age of 38, single for the first time since I was 25, I was newly sober, heartbroken, and absolutely befuddled.
He has no other recreation with friends other than drinking? What do the two of you do when you go out, or stay home? This Arizona rehab prescribes high doses of AA meetings and backpacking for young guys who not only need to get sober, but also learn the basics (think cooking and cleaning) of living in the real world.
I have been dating someone very seriously for almost a year who is a social drinker.
He will go out with friends and all they do is drink and that is the only thing he does.
cautions that relationships are “the number one relapse trigger” so it’s first important to take the time to “heal yourself first.” Faulkner’s healthy-dating-in-sobriety checklist is key: “You should have a solid base of recovery—two years; no relapses; you should have worked the steps; you should be meeting often with your sponsor to discuss dating; and you should regularly be attending your home-group meetings.” She adds, “Both people should attend Al-Anon meetings, too.
If the relationship becomes serious, it would be helpful for the partner to work a 12-step program to gain insight into the disease of addiction and codependency that often accompanies it.” Because relapse is most common in the first years of recovery—leveling off at about five years—Faulkner cautions that those who are sober be cautious about dating people who imbibe.